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Fellow moms, this last while has been a struggle.
Did you know mom burnout is a real thing? I know it sounds awful, but it’s true!
The symptoms of burnout are:
- physical and emotional exhaustion
- cynicism and detachment
- feelings of ineffectiveness and lack of accomplishment
Put those symptoms in the context of your parenting and you have mom burnout.
I love my kids and actually choose to stay at home and homeschool them but lately I’ve been feeling so fried. I’m like one of those french fries forgotten at the bottom of your oven which has now been blackened completely through you can hardly tell what it was meant to be. Or maybe that’s the bottom of my oven.
One of my greatest fears is to wake up one day and realize my kids are grown and I never enjoyed their childhood. I don’t want it to be one of those “blink and then you miss it” moments – I want to truly experience and enjoy the season of childhood.
Today I want to share a few different ways to help get out of the burnout rut and get back to actually enjoying you kids’ childhood.
HOW TO CURE MOM BURNOUT AND ENJOY THE SEASON OF CHILDHOOD
#1 PRAY, PRAY, PRAY
Seriously, it all starts here.
Ask for strength, for joy, for peace, for those still waters.
Pray for yourself and your family and do it on a regular basis. Set reminders throughout the day to continue to pray for them, these can be visual triggers or notifications on your phone. Whatever you need to remember to pray.
Find verses to cling to and pray for your family. Here are a few to get you started:
- for anger: “Lord, please help me to be slow to anger (James 1:19), for whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty and she who rules her spirit than those who take a city (Proverbs 16:22).”
- for joy: “Lord, may Your hope fill me with joy (Romans 15:13), may my heart be glad and my whole being rejoice (Psalm 16:9).”
- for compassion: “Clothe me with the virtue of compassion (Colossians 3:12).”
- for love: “Help me to live a life of love through the spirit, who dwells in me (Ephesians 5:12 & Galatians 5:22).”
Put these prayers where you will see them frequently, in your phone, as a bookmark, taped to your mirror, etc.
I will be emailing some printable verses to pray for yourself and your children to my newsletter list soon, you can sign up to get those here:
#2 PLAN SOMETHING FUN FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY
I often need to be reminded to have fun with my kids and need to be intentional with planning something fun to do together. This can be as simple has having a games night at home with some of our current favorite games, or it can be something free or paid outside of the home, like going for a hike, or mini golfing or to some local event.
It can be easy for me to get into “mom mode” where I get so caught up in parenting that I don’t relax and have fun, this is something I need to do more often.
#3 HAVE A BREAK WITHOUT THE KIDS
No matter how much you love your kids you need to take a break without them as well. I am possibly the worst person for doing this. Since we homeschool I am around my kids all day long and Jared and I are terrible at going out on dates. We were just realizing last week that we have not gotten away for a night without the kids since Raeca was born – which is now eight years. It’s time for a couple’s getaway.
This break doesn’t have to be long, it can be a few hours during the day where someone takes your kids and you read on the couch and eat chips, or it can be a multi-night getaway. Just make sure to have enough time to recharge so when you come back you can give your children a well-rested mom.
#4 DON’T FORGET REGULAR SELF-CARE
Self-care is a buzz word these days and can definitely be taken overboard but we mamas all need some self-care. Whether that means going out with friends, getting your hair done or introverting with a good book; as a mom you need to make sure you are filled so you have something to give to those in your care.
There are seasons when self-care may go out the window (hello, newborn stage!) but if you neglect it for too long burn out will hunt you down and not let go.
Find a way to work a little bit of self-care into your routine. If you are an introvert it’s best to find a little bit of time for yourself each day, if you are more of an extrovert you may need more time once a week. Do what works but do something.
#5 CREATE A SLOW & SAVORY ROUTINE
In the last couple of years we have been following a routine that has become fairly popular in the homeschool community: poetry tea time. Once a week we grab hot chocolates (it’s supposed to be tea but we are rebels), some freshly baked goodies and our poetry books and just take turns reading poetry and eating and drinking.
Every time we have poetry tea time I think about how I want to incorporate that mentality of slow and savory into every other aspect of my life.
#6 LOOK FOR THE RAINBOWS
I’m not talking literal rainbows here, though you are more than welcome to point those out as well, but I mean the moments where things are going really well, and highlight those moments. Catch your child in the act of doing something nice, thank them for their good attitudes, remind them how proud you are of them.
Enjoy the rainbow moments.
#7 CONTINUE TO PRAY
So yes, I may have already mentioned prayer, but I think this step is so vital it is worth mentioning twice, please don’t neglect it.
If you haven’t already, make sure you sign up to get the printable verses to pray for your children:
All in all, parenting is hard. It’s really hard, but let’s choose to find ways to avoid burnout and enjoy this fleeting season of childhood. I’m praying for you, mama!