• Foster Care FAQ - Should You Foster When Your Kids Are Little
    FOSTER CARE

    Do you think you would still foster if your own children were younger? – Foster Care Q&A Series

    I’m excited to kick off this Foster Care Q&A series! We’ve only been fostering for just over four months and I feel like I’ve been made keenly aware at how desperate the need for good foster families in my province (and I’m sure everywhere else too). Just a warning, if you talk to me and express an interest in fostering I will try to talk you into it. Now you can’t say I didn’t warn you. Prior to fostering I had a lot of questions and hesitations. With this series I hope to answer questions people have asked me as well as questions I was asking before we started (and…

  • Foster Care
    FOSTER CARE

    I’m Glad He’s Our Second Placement

    Little R2D2* has been with us for almost two weeks now and I’m so thankful he was our second placement. (*Originally I was going to call him Alfalfa here on the blog but he makes this noise that sounds just like R2D2 and the kids were adamant that his name here had to change, so R2D2, or R2 for short, it is.) Honestly, if he was our first placement I think we would have been lulled into a false sense of security and feeling like “we got this”. Our first placement was hard (for us) and now I can say it was a good thing. We’ve only been fostering for…

  • Changing Our Foster Care Range of Acceptance
    FOSTER CARE,  LIVING

    Why We Changed Our Foster Care Range of Acceptance (and what we changed it to)

    While Buzz and Woody were still with us we knew we were going to change our range of acceptance for our next placement. Their social worker constantly raved about how well they were doing and how good our home was for them but the truth is, it wasn’t the best for our family. The three and a half months they were in our home wore on all four of us and our family as a whole. A lot of that we felt and were aware of and some of it we didn’t even realize until they were gone. I know God knew exactly what He was doing by putting those…

  • Fostering - taking another placement
    FOSTER CARE,  LIVING

    And We’re Back at It

    Well, yesterday afternoon we had a social worker drop off a 17 month old boy so I guess we’re back at it! Originally, after Buzz and Woody left, we had been planning on taking a break for a few weeks but we took last weekend to hang out as a family and then did a quick little trip to Edmonton and actually felt rested and ready to take another placement. We did make some adjustments to our range of acceptance, which I’ll share more about in another post, but we did make the decision to only take one child this time. I don’t have an online name for our little…

  • Foster Care - When the Kids Go Home
    FOSTER CARE,  LIVING

    And Just Like That, They’re Gone

    Yesterday morning Buzz and Woody’s social worker phoned and started out the conversation “Sometimes the Ministry does things strange . . .” and then proceeded to tell us she would be picking them up in a few hours to reunite them with their birth family. That call was not expected. Earlier in the week we were told that the birth family had just made an effort to start the reunification process and the social worker said she wanted to take things slowly, with day visits and then overnights but she’d let us know more information at the end of the week. Well, that information resulted in us saying goodbye immediately,…

  • Thoughts on Fostering
    FOSTER CARE,  LIVING

    Honest Thoughts Three Months Into Fostering

    An alternate title I had for this post was: What Have We Gotten Into? We are just three months into our fostering journey and I wanted to write a post with some random, honest thoughts, similar to the one I wrote after the first month. I don’t know what the average length of placement is for fostering here but I would be curious to know. We’ve just had the one placement (Buzz & Woody) for the last three months (with no end in sight). I know some people who have had much longer placements and some much shorter.     HONEST THOUGHTS THREE MONTHS INTO FOSTERING   MOTHERING DOES NOT COME…