• ADOPTION,  LIVING

    Nine-ish Months

    We recently passed the nine month mark of Ephraim’s adoption, what a whirlwind these past months have been! (Ha, apparently a whirlwind because we are actually closer to the ten month mark by the time I actually got around to posting this.) To be honest, I wasn’t prepared for the amount of time we’d spend dealing with some medical issues with Ephraim . . . overall he’s healthy but he’s had quite a few smaller things that add up to approximately 21 doctors appointments, one ambulance ride and one night in the hospital in the last eight months (with more appointments in the future and surgery in the next year or…

  • ADOPTION,  ADVOCATE,  LIVING

    The Loss of a Vision

    Ever since I was a teenager I had a fairly clear overall purpose in life. I knew God had put Africa and orphans in my heart. I knew that desire would one day lead to adoption and also strongly believed I would do missions work in some capacity at some point. For 15 years I had this clear vision in life, it’s one of the reasons I was able to persevere throughout the ups and downs of our adoption process. Then this last winter as we completed Ephraim’s adoption I also felt like I completely lost my purpose. Honestly, it felt as though God took that desire away, as though…

  • ADOPTION,  LIVING

    Six Months

    This Sunday marks six months of Ephraim being a Klassen! It’s crazy to think that six months ago we were arriving in South Africa and hadn’t even met him yet and now it’s like he’s been a part of our family forever. Ephraim has been adjusting so well. If you talk to anyone about adoption for more than a few minutes you’ll probably hear the words “bonding and attachment”. In a nutshell after adopting you need to make sure that your child knows that you are his parent and main caregiver. This can be tricky with some kids just going to other people willy-nilly and struggling with bonding and attaching to…

  • ADOPTION,  LIVING

    Supporting Adoptive Families – After the Airport

    I know there has been a little delay in this series but I wanted to wait until we had been home long enough before I wrote this all out in hopes I would have lots of information to share. The adoption announcement has come and gone, the family finally got their long awaited referral, now they’ve just arrived home. Exhausted, jet lagged, hungry and happy. How do you help them now? GIVE THEM SPACE Chances are they need a little time to get over their jet lag before being bombarded by company. How long this is varies based on the family, if you don’t know if you are welcome or not,…

  • ADOPTION,  AFRICA,  LIVING,  SOUTH AFRICA,  TRAVEL

    A Guide to Durban, South Africa

    Since we’ve been to South Africa I’ve had a lot of parents contacting me asking lots of questions about lodging, things to do, and just wanting general information about South Africa, which is awesome! I’ve wanted to share information with our adoption right from the get-go. I keep telling everyone that asks that I’ll make a guide to Durban for adoptive families so here it finally is! Just a few disclaimers: I’m going to share a few of our favorite things and places, but to be honest, we didn’t do as much as some other families. I know some families do every touristy thing while they are out there (many…

  • ADOPTION,  LIVING

    Supporting Adoptive Families – After the Referral

    This is my second post in my Supporting Adoptive Families series, you can check out the other posts from the series: Supporting Adoptive Families – After the Announcement Supporting Adoptive Families – After the Airport You’ve been supportive after the adoption announcement, you’ve stuck by their sides while they went through the antagonizing wait, and now they have a referral! You know a few details about the child but how can you support an adoptive family now?   ASK QUESTIONS Definitely ask lots of questions. Every agency and country is different but you could ask: * when do you get to travel and pick him/her up? * how long do you have…